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Effective Diaper Domination

Of the many ways to capture and dominate your favorite slave, the use of diapers offers unique potential. Unlike traditional bondage equipment, which cannot usually be worn in public, diapers are generally hidden and if discovered (intentionally or by accident) are presumed to be present due to medical necessity. Therefore there is considerably more flexibility with diaper bondage and less chance of undue attention from the authorities.

Traditional bondage serves to restrict a slave's mobility. Since it is in the very nature of human beings to move, each time a slave attempts to find a more comfortable position, she is reminded that her master has removed this privilege and that she is under her master's control. But aside from having been restricted, the slave's sense of self is generally intact. If invasive devices such as dildos are used, the slave may feel penetrated by the master but this effect is limited in its duration by bodily functions, among other considerations.

Diaper bondage is unique in that while the slave's body is not normally penetrated (but this can be added easily) her sense of self is under attack. Toilet training is a cornerstone of our psychological processes. So much has been written about its ramifications for adult life that little need be mentioned here. The effect of diaper bondage is to defeat toilet training, almost always against the slave's will. The injunctions against wetting and/or soiling oneself are the strongest known to us. Therefore, when a slave is confined to diapers for an extended period, these injunctions are confronted within the subconscious of the slave's mind, causing anxiety, turmoil and identification of the master with a parent figure.


This serves the master's interests well. The parent figure in our psyche is a giver of comfort, nourishment, and a dispenser of discipline. Since most children learn that rebellion against the parent's authority is futile; a child posture in the slave can be pleasing for the master. One of the objectives of effective diaper domination is to use discomfort and embarrassment to push the slave to a point where he or she will appeal the master's use of diapers.

A slave in diapers is no less dependent on the master than if she were in bondage. As soon as the diapers are pinned and the plastic panties in place the slave realizes that he or she has been deprived of the most basic and private decision of adult life -- when and how to relieve oneself. It will not, at first, occur to the slave that attempting to refrain from elimination will be futile, that it is the master's plan and desire that the slave suffer forced incontinence. The slave will, instead, be initially concerned with the strange feelings of the diaper such as the bulk between the legs which alters her walk and the growing heat caused by the plastic panties. The second concern of the slave will be his or her appearance. We are an image-based society and the slave will have cultivated a personal image, which includes some degree of vanity. Forcing an obviously diapered adult to mingle with the public forces the victim to re-evaluate her image, causing more anxiety and distress. The master may take some assurance that anyone who guesses the cause of the bulges under the slave's clothing will presume an innocent reason, but the slave has no such comfort. Every strange look, every whispered comment will torture the slave with the suspicion that someone has guessed that he or she is wearing diapers and therefore less of an adult.

The most common objection to the use of diapers is that the slave's genitals are bundled out of reach and use by the master. While this is true, it is only an obstacle when the session is intended to remain indoors. As soon as privacy is lost, so too is the opportunity to fondle the slave intimately. Diaper bondage offers the prospect of intense psychological effect on the slave during intervals when even traditional bondage would be impractical.

Males and females react differently to the prospect of being forcibly confined in diapers. While this likely has its roots in male vs. female ego, there are some simpler explanations. Males depend on being able to see their genitals to confirm their presence and state. Women's genitals are hidden and she must rely on internal sensations to judge their condition, therefore it is not a new sensation for her to be denied visual contact with her organs. A second point is that all women of childbearing age are, in essence, incontinent for several days each month. The menstrual cycle is a closely guarded subject amongst females who are often raised with injunctions to the effect that they are not to give any indication that they are menstruating, discuss the subject with men, or otherwise acknowledge it as a normal bodily function. "Discretion" is the key word as the woman chooses the pads or tampons necessary to preserve her clothing. A recent tampon advertisement criticized napkins for "feeling like diapers", and no doubt this is true, considering that both disposable diapers and feminine pads must feel alike to the sensitive vulva. Therefore for a woman the prospect of being diapered offers little novelty. She is used to having to care for an uncontrolled release of fluid from her body and taking great pains to conceal the activity from everyone else. This helps to explain that female diaper fetishists are rare (but much sought after by males of the same persuasion).

Males lack this training in incontinence and its camouflage. They also lack the convenience of full skirts to hide the bulges under clothing. Even the slimmest diaper on a male will cause obvious changes to his outline. And since, as has been demonstrated, this outline is a key element of his self-perception, it is here that the master begins to make inroads in domination.

Masters wishing to obtain the basic necessities for diaper domination will not have to look far. There is a wide range of adult disposable diapers available at most drug stores. While effective for their intended use, such diapers are usually not absorbent or thick enough to serve well in diaper domination. Plastic pants can be had from medical supply stores and are a definite necessity both for their practical and psychological properties. Disposable adult diapers may be supplemented with toddler disposables whose plastic backing has been punctured to permit drainage into the adult (outer) diaper. This adds extra bulk between the legs, which is necessary to provide the discomfort that is a fundamental element of the process.

Cloth diapers are more easily made than purchased. Generally about four can be made from cutting up a single size flannel bed sheet. Normal baby pins can be used but some purists purchase women's kilt pins to provide a larger, more babyish fastener. Two toddler disposables, taped end to end, and placed inside the cloth diaper increase absorbency and offer protection from soiling.

Whatever the materials used the primary objective for the master in diapers on his slave are discomfort, visibility, efficiency, and security.

Discomfort serves to remind the diapered slave that he or she is indeed in diapers and will, sooner or later, be forced to use them for eliminations. All diapers are uncomfortable to an adult unused to wearing them but this discomfort can be increased through a variety of simple measures.

The first discomfort enhancer is bulk, especially between the legs. This can be accomplished by adding baby diapers to the crotch of the adult diaper (cloth or disposable respectively) thus forming a soaker panel which is rigid enough not to be compressed by the victim's walking action. In fact, it will force the slave to walk slightly bow-legged in a manner best described as a waddle. The slave will be unable to escape this pressure between the legs, which in the male especially can be quite uncomfortable. When walking the slave's inner thighs will chafe on the diaper and when sitting the extra bulk will be pressed against her genitals. This latter effect is especially useful for long trips on public transit when the slave has no choice but to sit and endure whatever her master has put on her.

The second discomfort enhancer is heat. The presence of plastic pants will cause a trapping of body heat and the resulting perspiration will make a diaper damp and uncomfortable. The amount of heat retained can be increased by doubling up with disposable diapers and adding extra pairs of plastic pants. These measures, in turn, can be amplified by coating the diaper area with Vaseline, which impedes perspiration. Consideration may also be given to restrictive clothing such as girdles. It should be noted that most disposable adult diapers become very itchy when worn for extended periods. Therefore extended confinement in them, especially with some of the other measures discussed, will have your slave squirming and begging for relief within hours, whether she has wet and soiled or not.


The remaining discomfort enhancers are used occasionally, for special sessions or punishments. Mustard plaster on the rear cheeks is effective as a long-term punishment since the resulting burn will last several days whether the slave is diapered or not. Shaving the pubic hair is favored as a routine discomfort enhancement since the slave is unable to scratch at the predictable itch and is usually forbidden to touch her diapers and plastic pants. Butt plugs, especially those with harnesses are often used to create a background haze of discomfort and forestall soiling when it is not desired. A slave diapered in this manner will appear dazed and distracted, which may attract more attention from the public. Such devices are especially useful when the slave may be required to change her own diapers on an aircraft, thus providing herself some limited comfort while being constantly reminded that the master is still in control.

A master's second consideration when confining his slave to diapers is visibility. While adult diaper manufacturers have worked strenuously to make their products less obtrusive, these efforts must be defeated if the slave is to suffer humiliation in public. In summer this is often accomplished by the use of shorts that are too small to cover all of the plastic pants. Thus the slave must confront the reality that her secret is always open to viewing should anyone look closely enough. In winter the slave should be forced to wear slacks that allow the diaper bulge to show prominently and no sports jacket should be allowed.

Diaper visibility in female slaves requires different strategies. Skirts that are short enough to allow brief glimpses of the bulging plastic panties are fine for summer. Shorts with very wide leg openings are also useful, especially if the slave is to be taken shopping for shoes, in which situation the clerk would get an unimpeded view of her diapered crotch. In winter the girl should be forced to wear a garter belt and stockings under a skirt that is both too tight and slit too high to conceal either her garters or her plastic panties. If the stockings are seamed, with reinforced heels, she will attract a lot of attention from males, to her distress. High heels are a must at all times for female slaves and may be used with effect on males when in private.

When at home or in circumstances of reasonable privacy, both male and female slaves should not be permitted any covering below the waist. The shirt-and-diapers uniform is common to toddlers because it offers the ability to instantly discern the condition of the diaper, no less is true of the diaper slave. A secondary benefit is that the slave is forced to see his or her diapers all the diapers all the time, knowing they cannot be removed or altered without intervention from the master. In this state of undress, the slave should be forced to perform chores, which may result in them being observed by strangers. These can be in the form of retrieving the morning paper, hanging out the laundry, or being locked outside on an apartment balcony for a suitable length of time. Some activities require additional clothing. A slave sent to do the laundry in a Laundromat or apartment laundry should be dressed in too-small shorts and a shirt that is cut short enough to ride up the back as soon as the slave bends over. This exposes the top of the slave's plastic pants and the slave's instinctive reaction to keep pulling the shirt down merely attracts more attention.

Visibility need not depend on the eyes. Disposable diapers and well-worn plastic pants can be noisy. The crackling sounds can be quite loud and attract attention from passersby in shopping malls and airports. In addition, these materials are noisy to take off and put on, so if your slave must change her diaper in a public washroom it will not be possible to for her to do so discreetly.

Another element to visibility is smell. Again, adult diaper companies do not add fragrances to their products but this is no impediment to the ambitious master. Male slaves are especially susceptible to the torment of being sent out into public with the sweet fragrances of scented Vaseline, baby powder and lotion preceding her like a cloud. Of course, if desired, the slave can be made to soil herself (laxatives and suppositories are useful) and this is the most humiliating visibility factor of all and is very effective in crowded public places like elevators.

Having added extra bulk, several pairs of plastic panties and perhaps double diapers, the competent master has already addressed many concerns for efficiency. However long trips, extended punishment periods or the deliberate cultivation of diaper rash require innovation. In situations where the slave must be capable of changing her diaper, such as on an aircraft, it is possible to keep her wet and safe at the same time. Diapering her in a single adult cloth either or disposable diaper accomplishes this. If a disposable is used, it's plastic backing must be perforated to permit drainage. Sew the cloth diaper on so the slave cannot remove it (you may wish to insert a butt plug before doing so) but do use pins to take the strain off the thread. If a disposable is being used, secure it with several around the waist passes of wide packing tape. Make sure the tape is very snug because the diaper will sag when wet, allowing the slave to remove and replace it. Additional cloth or disposable diapers can be fastened over the first diaper and plastic pants added. When necessary, the slave can be sent to change herself but she will not become dry, nor will she have an opportunity to play with herself.

If efficiency is a concern, the use of bloomer style plastic pants may be effective. These extend part way down the leg and while helpful in preventing occasional leaking, are very uncomfortable, especially in summer. These pants are often used for punishment purposes. When placed on females wearing skirts it is almost impossible to conceal them properly.

The element of security is concerned with the ability of the slave to alter or escape the punishment of wearing diapers. This is unacceptable and must be prevented at all costs. There are two strategies, to secure the diaper, or to secure the clothing, which covers it.

Securing the diaper allows the slave to be kept in the state of half-undress described earlier. It is also useful if the slave is to be displayed to the master's friends or is sleeping away from home and the customary bed restraints. It allows the slave's hands to be free, permitting the assignment of chores. Generally a chastity belt design is used with a wide crotch band secured to a sturdy belt. The lock may be discreet or not at the master's pleasure. Such a device increases the discomfort of the diaper, makes soiling more unpleasant and can forestall attempts at masturbation through the diaper. It may be used on both males and females but the former will suffer more from its effects. Among its disadvantages are that it can tear the plastic pants and that the slave can sometimes gain access to the genitals through a leg opening.

Securing the clothing which covers the diaper is more efficient in preventing masturbation but can be less convenient in other areas. Shorts or pants can be locked at the waist with a length of fine chain and a small lock. This usually prevents the slave from putting her hands inside her diapers or playing with herself. In the case of shorts, chains at the cuffs will prevent access from that point. Such chains can be discreet, if necessary.

An alternative is to use pantyhose on both males and females. A stout pair of control top should be used. The garment is placed on the slave and then a fine wire or chain is passed through the waistband and locked. The slave cannot get access from the leg openings and there is the additional benefit of compression from the girdle-like panty. Males especially are humiliated by being made to wear pantyhose. Forcing your slave to go out in public wearing only shorts over his hosiery or alternatively wearing slacks can enhance this but also sandals which reveal his secret to all whom happen to look down. Since there is no plausible reason for a male to be wearing hosiery, the potential for extreme embarrassment is high. If pantyhose are used on a female, use of the seamed variety will be effective; bloomer style panties would add to her distress, especially if the skirt was short.

Once the slave is securely bound in diapers and plastic pants the master's concern turns to measures, which will aggravate the slave's condition. Excessive fluid intake, diuretics and laxatives are the most common measures adopted. In the case of fluids, the properly diapered slave, left alone, will have no choice but to wet her diapers. This can be rewarding for the master especially during the first few occasions when diapers are used. The slave fights her toilet training all the while knowing that the inevitable cannot be forestalled. Unfortunately, slaves usually become accustomed to wetting within a few weeks and there is no longer any entertainment value for the master in this act. At this stage the master may wish to insert a catheter into the slave before diapers are applied, thus forcing true incontinence. Again, the initial results are pleasing, since the slave is rendered into a true incontinent state. Remember that prolonged use of catheters can cause infection and that these devices forestall ejaculation in the male.

The decision of whether or not to force a slave to soil herself depends on the preferences of the master, who will perform the necessary cleansing operations, the diapers in use and whether or not the slave will be taken out in public. Forced soiling can produce spectacular results in a novice slave and should be experienced at least once to judge its value. Since all slaves attempt to avoid the experience of soiling, some encouraging measures may be required. Generally the process of moving the bowels will be enhanced with the additional fluid intake, but if immediate results are required, laxative suppositories work wonders. An alternative is to begin feeding bulk laxative to the slave approximately 24 hours before diaper confinement is to begin. Each administration of the laxative reminds the slave of the punishment to come and the fact that she will be made to soil. This may result in whining and begging-off on the part of the slave, which the master may wish to address once the session has begun.

A soiled diaper on an adult gives off a distinct aroma. Unless severe humiliation, in the form of knowledgeable attention from the public, is desired, soiled slaves should be kept at least 15 feet aware from innocent by-standers.

One of the most rewarding aspects of forcing a slave to soil while diapered is the knowledge that it confronts one of the major injunctions of psychological development and causes tremendous anxiety in the slave. A wet diaper can feel like a wet bathing suit but the adult slave will not have experienced the sensations of a dirty diaper since being a small child. The knowledge that she has messed herself and is unable to do anything about it until the master agrees tortures her unmercifully.

Soiling is most traumatic for a slave during the first hour after messing. During this time the slave will be aware of little else but the condition of her diaper and the strange sensation of her own effluent being spread about inside it. However beyond this initial phase, there is little to be gained by prolonged confinement in the messy diaper unless a rash is desired or the slave is being forced to sleep in her mess as a punishment. Cleansing operations are generally easier if attempted as soon as possible.

Slaves will become accustomed to soiling if subjected to the procedure on a regular basis. A master wishing to avoid this may choose to make the process more uncomfortable or difficult with the use of butt plugs, chastity-type retention belts, or tight clothing. Forcing the slave to soil while in semi-public places or in the presence of friends of the master is also very effective. In the latter case the slave may be secured outside for a time in consideration of the comfort of the guests.

Diaper domination makes use of some equipment, which might not be found in routine slave training situations. Fortunately this equipment is light and portable and therefore lends itself to travel and over-night use.

The most important aspect of diaper bondage is that the slave must be rendered helpless to adjust, change or remove her diapers. The security devices discussed earlier are effective but are not always appropriate. The most common long-term bondage appliances are rigid mittens, which limit the use of the hands and restrictive clothing.

Rigid mittens are available without question from medical supply stores or the master may fabricate them. Any design that keeps the hand from being able to grasp and prevents use of the fingers and which may be fastened securely is acceptable. Without the use of her hands or fingers, the slave is helpless to affect her diapered condition. She may be left alone in the house otherwise unrestrained yet able to perform only limited functions. She may, for instance, be able to answer the phone but dialing out is impossible. Slaves in this condition will attempt masturbation in the form of rubbing themselves through their diapers. Since the sensations produced in this manner merely remind the slave of her diapered condition, it may be allowed. The slave may also be told that evidence of masturbation (most obvious in the male) will be punished severely. The use of only mittens to restrain a slave can produce unexpected and yet pleasing results since the slave feels quite free but yet is prevented from the one thing she wants most, to be out of her uncomfortable diapers.

Restrictive clothing is used most often when the slave is being put down for the night. One-piece sleepers are most effective here since the sense of confinement adds to the effects of having been forced to wear and use diapers. If rigid mittens have not been incorporated into the garment they may be added to prevent the slave from removing the garment during the night. Sleepers should cover the feet, be cut generously in the crotch and fasten at the back of the neck. The ability to lock the main zipper is handy but not necessary.

One of the primary advantages of diaper domination and bondage is that a "scene" may be protracted over several days without undue wear on either the master or the slave. Since, aside from being kept in diapers, the slave is able to function normally; there is no need to end a scene in order to provide for nourishment or rest. Therefore scenes can be integrated into normal life, such as the slave being made to attend cocktail parties, sporting events, theater, and social evenings while in diapers. Each of these situations presents the slave with a different set of potential opportunities for discovery. Longer outings will, of course, require a change of diapers and the diaper bag being present is often a major embarrassment in itself.

Finally, diaper domination is most effective when the slave is kept sexually aroused as much as possible. Oral servicing of the master will see to his needs but the slave should be kept sexually frustrated for extended periods of time. The unusual sensations at the genitals will help, as will enforced humiliation (if this is arousing to the slave) but the master should be prepared to stimulate the slave when rewards are due. At the end of the scene the slave should be made to engage in intercourse while wearing a disposable diaper that has been slit to allow the master access to the desired orifices or organs. This will reinforce to the slave the pleasure/pain aspects of true diaper domination

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