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BD/SM/Fetish PLAY LIST
Prepared by Jrsygir1(6/2000), this list was
inspired by many existing lists on the internet....it was prepared and is
intended for educational purposes only and should not be used for commercial
gain.....please feel free to reproduce and distribute this document free of
charge anywhere on the internet or in print.
This is a Play list that may help couples figure out what their wants and needs
are. Personally I don't like play lists but sometimes they are good
communication tools. When someone fills it out they should indicate if they are
filling it out for their ultimate Dominant/Top partner or for someone in
particular, taking into consideration the nature of the relationship. In other
words if I were filling it out for my longtime Dominant partner it would look
different than if I were filling it out for a new casual play partner. Some of
the answers would be different based on the nature of the relationship and the
level of trust involved.
This worksheet allows for a more open
communication between Dominant/Top and submissive/bottom. By consenting to the
participation in various bd/sm/fetish acts, both individuals can move forward in
their sexual adventures with a clear idea of what each one expects. It's a tool
to open discussion between partners and a chance for Dominant/Top and
submissive/bottom to create boundaries, limits and to feel more comfortable in
their roles. Since Dominants/Tops are allowed to have limits as are submissives/bottoms,
you might each think about filling out a sheet, to see how close you are, and
where adjustments and communications are needed. This list is in no way
complete. It is just a starting point. You can download a
Word Version or a
Rich Text Version for printing. As
always, we suggest condoms be used for any penetration by genitals or toys, and
gloves when using your hands. Dental dams are also suggested for oral play, when
playing with someone who is unknown or suspect. For more information, visit
http://www.safesex.com
The form below is
meant for viewing only. If you wish to fill it out, please download above.
Please note; nothing in my opinion takes the place of chemistry
and face to face communication.
If you have questions regarding a term, check it in the
deviant's dictionary
How to fill out the forms;
A. Done it YES or NO
B. Indicate how you felt about it when you did it using the following
indicators;
NO means you will NOT do that activity under any circumstances. Its a hard
limit and will never happen with anyone. PERIOD! THE END! DON'T EVEN GO THERE!
0 means you HATE that activity, but you are willing to do it at least a little
to please the Dominant/Top, but you would really rather not. It can also mean
you are not able to do that activity with a casual play partner but in the right
situation, like a committed relationship, you would be capable of doing it. And
this is why communication will never take the place of a Play list.
1 means you don't care much about it....under the right circumstances it might
be fun...what the hell...ok you will try it.
2 means you're curious about it, not sure how you'll respond...in theory you
think you will like it.....but you reserve the right to hate it.
3 means it's pleasurable or fun....and you hope the Dominant/Top can make it
more fun.
4 means you love it, you get hot thinking about it....and you really really
want to do it.
5 means the activity is a wild turn-on, you want to do it more more more...all
the time...AGAIN!!!
C. Indicate for each item how you feel RIGHT NOW about doing that activity
with the person who asked you to fill this play list out, assuming there will be
chemistry when you actually meet.
NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances. Its a hard limit
and will never happen with anyone. PERIOD! THE END! DON'T EVEN GO THERE!
0 means you HATE that activity, but you are willing to do it at least a little
to please the Dominant. It can also mean you are not able to do that activity
with a casual play partner but in the right situation, like a committed
relationship, you would be capable of doing it. And this is why communication
will never take the place of a Play list.
1 means you don't care much about it....under the right circumstances it might
be fun...what the hell...ok you will try it.
2 means you're curious about it, not sure how you'll respond...in theory you
think you will like it.....but you reserve the right to hate it.
3 means it's pleasurable or fun....and you hope the Dominant/Top can make it
more fun.
4 means you love it, you get hot thinking about it....and you really really
want to do it.
5 means the activity is a wild turn-on, you want to do it more more more...all
the time...AGAIN!!!
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I, ________________, am filling this play list out at the
request of _______________ .
My experience in BD/SM is best described as (circle one);
None Some Casual Serious Extensive
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SEX
Is sex something you want in your BD/SM relationship?
Define sex;
Define Safe Sex;
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD
LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
| Anal penetration (penis) |
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| Anal penetration (object) |
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| Anal penetration (doing) |
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| Anal fisting (getting) |
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| Analingus (giving) |
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| Analingus (getting) |
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| Cock worship (doing) |
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| Cunnilingus (getting) |
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| Cunnilingus (giving) |
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| Cyber Sex |
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| Direct masturbation |
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| Double penetration (oral/anal) |
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| Double Penetration (vaginal/anal) |
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| Eating/drinking cum (others) |
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| Eating/drinking cum (own) |
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| Fantasy rape |
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| Fellatio (getting) |
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| Fellatio (giving) |
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| Group sex |
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| Intercourse |
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| Phone Sex |
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| Public Sex |
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| Strap-ons (receiving) |
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| Threesomes |
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| Triple Penetration |
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| Vaginal sex (penis) |
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| Vibrator/dildo |
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BONDAGE
Degree of immobility or helplessness enjoyed (circle one)
Light Medium Heavy
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD
LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
| 1-3 hour duration |
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| 3-6 hour duration |
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| Overnight duration |
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| Arm sleeves |
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| Bondage (light) |
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| Bondage (heavy) |
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| Breast bondage |
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| Cages |
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| Ceiling/wall hooks |
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| Collars (leather) |
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| Collars (other) |
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| Cotton ropes |
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| Chains |
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| Cuffs (leather) |
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| Cuffs (other) |
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| Gags (ball) |
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| Gags (funnel) |
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| Gags (panties) |
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| Gags (other) |
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| Genital bondage |
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| Harnessing (suspended) |
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| Intricate rope bondage |
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| Leather restraints |
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| Mental bondage |
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| Mummification |
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| Nylon rope |
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| Saran wrapping |
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| Shackles |
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| Silk scarves |
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| Slings/swings |
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| Spreader-bars |
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| Spread-eagle |
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| Stocks |
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| Straightjackets |
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| Strapping - full body |
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| Suspension (on toes) |
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| Suspension (full) |
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| Suspension (inverted) |
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PUNISHMENT
Do you respond to punishment?
Under what circumstances is punishment not ok?
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD
LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
| Belt/strap |
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| Cane |
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| Denial of pleasure |
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| Fiberglass/plastic rod |
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| Isolation |
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| Leather Flogger |
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| Leather paddle |
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| Riding crop |
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| Rubber whip |
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| Ruler |
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| Silent Treatment |
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| Single lash |
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| Spanking |
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| Switch |
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| Wooden paddle |
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| Soap In Mouth |
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ROLE PLAY
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD
LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
| Pony |
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| Dog |
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| Cat |
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| Bunny |
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| Worm |
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| Whore |
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| Patient |
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| Nurse |
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| Victim |
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| Corpse |
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| Prison Inmate |
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| Slut |
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| Furniture |
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| Pig |
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| Maid |
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| Sissy |
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| Doll |
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| Kajira |
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| Baby |
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| Robot |
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| Stripper |
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FETISH
What items or types of play make the little man in your boat
stand up and sing?
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD
LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
| Boot worship |
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| Balloons |
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| Food |
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| Stuffed animals |
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| Restraints |
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| Bugs |
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| Shoes |
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| Stinky Feet |
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| Socks |
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| Stockings |
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| Masks |
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| Corsets (wearing) |
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| Corsets (on others) |
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| Voluntary X dressing |
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| Forced x dressing |
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| Public X dressing |
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| Uniforms |
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| Foot Worship |
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| High heel wearing |
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| High heel worship |
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| Latex wearing |
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| Latex, on others |
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| Rubber wearing |
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| Rubber on others |
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| Leather wearing |
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| Leather on others |
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| Feet |
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| Body Inflation |
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| Lactation |
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| Amazons |
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| Crush |
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| Canine |
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| Hair |
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| Pregnant Females |
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| Needles |
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| Blood |
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| Smoking |
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| Tickling |
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| Vampires |
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| Long Nails |
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| Dirty Panties |
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| Guns |
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| Knives |
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HUMILIATION & EXHIBITIONISM
Is humiliation something you might get into?
What about being displayed in public?
What types of humiliation would be off limits?
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD
LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
| Crossing dressing |
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| Crawling |
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| Dirty words |
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| Face slapping |
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| Foot kissing |
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| Kneeling |
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| Lead on leash |
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| Public display |
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| Public embarrassment |
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| Public sex |
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| Secret sex in public |
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| Verbal abuse |
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| Examination |
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| Inspection |
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| Objectification |
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| Toilet |
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| Forced Nudity |
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| Given Away |
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| Ashtray |
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BODILY FUNCTIONS
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD
LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
| Breath Control |
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| Brown showers, scat |
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| Catheterization |
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| Eating/drinking own waste |
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| Eating/drinking own cum |
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| Enemas |
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| Physical Examinations |
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| Golden showers |
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| Medical scenes |
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| Menstrual service |
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| Sweat |
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| Snot |
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| Spit |
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| Diapering |
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INTENSE SENSATION AND IMPACT PLAY
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD
LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
| Branding |
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| Caning |
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| Clip & Clamps |
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| Cock & Ball torture |
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| Cutting |
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| Electrical play |
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| Flogging |
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| Fire |
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| Hair Pulling |
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| Heat |
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| Hot Wax |
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| Needles (Play piercing) |
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| Paddling |
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| Pressure Points |
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| Punching |
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| Scratching (giving) |
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| Scratching (receiving) |
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| Slapping |
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| Spanking (hand) |
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| Spanking (other) |
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| Whipping (single tail) |
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| Whipping (other) |
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OTHER STUFF
ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD
LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT
| Hoods (leather) |
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| Hoods (metal) |
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| Hoods (other) |
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| Blindfolds |
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| Head Harness |
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| Ice |
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| Interrogations |
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| Kidnapping |
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| Massage - getting |
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| Massage - giving |
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| Piercing (permanent) |
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| Photographs |
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| Romantic play |
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| Sensory deprivation |
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| Shaving
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| Tattoos |
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| Teasing |
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| Voyeurism |
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| Videoed scenes |
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| Wrestling |
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For you, the turn on of BD/SM is: (rate from 1 to 6 with 1 being most
erotic):
ITEM, VALUE, COMMENT
| Visual |
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| Psychological |
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| Aural (sound) |
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| Sensory-intense |
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| Emotional |
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| Sensual-erotic |
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| other;
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What positions have the highest erotic value for you (rate from 1 to 6 with 1
being most erotic):
| Standing bondage |
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| Lying on back |
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| Lying face down |
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| Hands & Knees |
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| Kneeling |
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| other;
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What toys have the highest erotic value for you (1=some interest; 2=pretty
exciting; 3=very erotic)
ITEM, VALUE, COMMENT
| Whips |
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| Floggers |
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| Canes |
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| Paddles |
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| Electrical toys |
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| Ropes |
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| Chains |
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| Leather Restraints |
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| Wax |
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| Knives |
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| Nipple clamps |
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| Clothespins |
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| Paddles |
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| Uniforms |
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| Dildos |
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| Vibrators |
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| Butt plugs |
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| Gags |
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| Handcuffs |
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| Blindfolds |
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| Belts |
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| Harnesses & Slings |
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| Boots/shoes |
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| Clothing |
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| Collars |
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How do you usually like it? (use all that apply)
(N) never, (T) thuddy, (S) stingy, (L) light, (M) medium , (H) heavy , (?)
unsure
| Back |
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| Butt |
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| Breasts |
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| Face |
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| Feet |
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| Genitals |
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| Shoulders |
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These activities interest me and why;
| Discipline
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| Punishment
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| Mental Domination
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| NLP
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| Non Consensual
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| Exhibitionism
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| Humiliation
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| Swapping
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| Fantasy Rape
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| Fear Play
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| Bondage
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| Sensory Deprivation
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| Forced Feminization
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| Role Play
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| Public Play
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| Hypnosis
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| Suspension
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| Mummification
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| Extreme Punishment
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| Extreme Pain
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| Long Term Service
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| Slavery
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Your biggest fantasy is;
Your favorite scene was;
Your worst scene was;
Your biggest fears are;
How do you feel about Polyamory?
Do you consider yourself Poly or Monogamous?
What parts of your body are most erotically sensitive?
What parts of your Dom's body would you most like to pleasure?
List any known limits for the specific play partner this questionnaire is
being prepared for;
What disease screenings have you had (dates) and what were the outcomes?
What disease screenings are you willing to get?
What disease screenings are you unwilling to get and why?
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For the Tops/Dominants;
My experience in BD/SM is best described as (circle one);
None Some Casual Serious Extensive
I as the Top/Dominant have the following limits;
What safe words will be used and what are their specific
meanings?
My style of BD/SM is best described as;
If you couldn't use toys, pain or sex, how would you Dominate your
submissive/bottom?
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Dominant/Top's Real Name is ________________________
Place of Employment_________________________
Employer Phone # __________________
I, _____________________, give _________________ permission to contact my
place of employment and verify my name and employment. I understand this info
will be given to the safe call person of the play partner when we meet in real
life.
Member of the following BD/SM organizations;
References;
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Submissive/bottom's Real Name is ________________________
Place of Employment_________________________
Employer Phone # __________________
I, _____________________, give _________________ permission to contact my
place of employment and verify my name and employment. I understand this info
will be given to the safe call person of the play partner when we meet in real
life.
Member of the following BD/SM organizations;
References;
Yours in Life, Love and Leather,
Robert aka Morpheus
"My solitary path allows unobstructed vistas, and an untrampled landscape."
(Morpheus 11/24/99)
http://www.tampafetishparty.com
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